How do I connect to others?

             “How do I connect to others?” is a topic for the today’s blog. In society, people have to connect to each other to communicate well and make better society.  I guess connection between person to person is really important, because it can make them to have better communication and good communications lead world to become stronger and having less problems. I also need a lot of communications with friends and parents whenever I have problems that I can’t solve very well on my own. Serious communication can really connect to other people and me. Whenever I have problems, I usually use serious communication with friends or parents. This serious communication can relive my mind and sometime some advices from them can really help to solve my problems.

             To meet people, connection is also take important role from it. Making new relationship with another like new friend or group, I can tell connection is good key for making new relationship. It’s awkward when you meet the new person at first time. So connection which means it’s like being of one mind together and understands each other very well. To make this happening, good connection have to be come out itself and make people understands each other with good mind and thinking. To make good connection in relationship, the person has to meet another person with proper and good manner. Complement is also good way to approach good relationship with another.

There is a step to get good communication from relationship between person to person. First one is speak warmly. If you drop the pitch of your voice and talk more slowly, the listener will respond with greater trust. When we are angry, excited, or frightened, we raise the pitch and intensity of our voices, and it varies a lot in speed and tone. On the other hand, a warm supportive voice is the sign of leadership and will generate more satisfaction, commitment, and cooperation between members of your team. Then Be brief. Limit your speaking to 30 seconds or less. Our conscious minds retain only a tiny bit of information. If you need to communicate something essential, share it in even smaller segments— a sentence or two— then wait for the person to acknowledge they’ve understood. If the person remains silent, say another sentence or two, and then pause again. It also helps to write down major points before the conversation.

Also, Listen deeply. Stay focused on the person who is speaking: their words, tone, gestures, facial cues— everything. When they pause, you’ll need to respond to what they just said. If they go and on, then just study them and watch how your own inner speech reacts, without worrying about what you may remember or forget. You’ll actually be practicing a form of meditation that is neurologically enhancing and emotionally relaxing— a far cry from what we usually feel when we are bored by someone speaking.

Besides that, Slow down. Slowing down your speech actually helps people understand what you are saying and deepens their respect for you. It's not as intuitive as it may seem, and as children we automatically speak fast. But you can teach a child to slow down by speaking slowly yourself because they’ll match you. A slow voice has a calming effect on a person who is feeling anxious, whereas a loud, fast voice stimulates excitement, anger, or fear

It is better to live in the city or town than to move from one place to another.

             Today’s blog’s topic is “It is better to live in the city or town than to move from one place to another.” Some people believe that staying at one house would be better idea, because if people stay at one place only they are used to know more about that one place and very friendly at one place. However, it is limited to have more diversity of people and culture because staying at one place can be described as staying at prison. Prisoners can know about their prison a lot but they can’t know about outside life in order to stuck in the prison which means staying at one place. If people travel around and meet a lot of new people can be more helpful. Therefore, I firmly believe that traveling or moving from one place to another would be the better idea than staying at one place only.

             Traveling and moving around one place to another gives us the opportunity to disconnect from our regular life. You get to forget your problems/issues for a few weeks, it can also help you figure things out that you would not have understood without the distance traveling can give you. We all have crazy schedules, work and a family to take care of, going away alone or with some friends can give you distance and perhaps even make you realize how important these people are for you. Like the saying says: we never know what we have until we lose it. Also, another great benefit is the relaxation you get to do. It’s nice to live life to its fullest and enjoy a stress free time with yourself. Going on vacation lets us recharge our “batteries” by disconnecting us from our regular life. When we come back we feel invigorated and we are happy to be back in our day to day routine. It’s a very good stress remover that has a lot more to give than most people are willing to accept. When traveling with friends or family it creates memories for a lifetime. These memories will create a bond that nothing can erase no matter what happens with the friendship/relationship. It can also give a new perspective on the relationship and cement the bond forever. It also gives nice stories to tell people afterwards, you can create photo albums about your trips and when you feel nostalgic you can take an hour of your life and experience the trips again by looking at your pictures. 

             When we move around very much, we can meet a lot of people and in order to this, we can make a lot of new friends than only staying at one place. If we stay at one place only, it is limited to meet new friend because there is people already we know and they are the friend that we already made. Which means there is limited numbers of new friend to meet. The benefits of having a good friend in your life can be endless. A good friend can be closer than a brother or sister. Nevertheless, never underestimate the power of good friends. Good friends are there for you through good and bad times, they comfort you when you're sad, calm you down when you're angry about something, Give advice when you need it and they make you laugh when you need a good laugh. As we’ve seen above moving or traveling around is much better idea than staying at one place only. 

Ten quotes

             Today’s blog’s topic is ten quotes that I live by. The first one is "My Mama always said, 'Life was like a box of chocolates; you never know what you're gonna get." (Forest Gump) Forest Gump left a lasting impression with this famous quote. I've loved this quote since I was a little child, and well, life is like a box of chocolates. Leave it to forest to figure out life! Tom Hank smastered Forest's awkward sensibility in this film, and delivered this quote in a way that humorous and thought provoking. The second quotes is "You had me at  "hello." (Jerry Maguire) This quote perfectly describes love at first sight! I've encountered people who I knew I would have a connection with from the moment I met them. I'm not the biggest fan of Renee Zellweger, but her role in this film was pretty good, and this quote alone made her a star.The third quote is "Toto, I've a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore."(The Wizard of Oz) We all feel lost. This quote personifies curiosity, and innocence. This movie made Judy Garland a star. She was Dorothy! Dorothy realizes she will have quite an adventure ahead of her. When I went to college, I realized I wasn't in high school anymore!

The fourth quote is "Hello, Clarice." (Silence of the Lambs) Is there anything creepier? Only Hannibal could make a simple greeting this chilling. Well, I can come pretty close. I can make everyday sayings awkward, but don't worry, I won't eat you. I'm sure Anthony Hopkins gets asked to repeat this line all the time. The fifth quote is "Find a truly original idea. It is the only way I will ever distinguish myself. It is the only way I will ever matter." (A Beautiful Mind)This is another quote that gives insight to life. When someone is different and original, there legacies are all the more special. I hope to have an original idea someday. Russell Crowe was brilliant in this film. He delivered a touching portrayal. The sixth quote is "Here's Johnny." (The Shining)Nobody has mastered crazy onscreen the way Jack Nicholson does! Period! I've been told I'm pretty crazy as well, just not this crazy.The seventh quote is "I feel the need - the need for speed." (Top Gun)This was back win Tom Cruise was cool. No he's just crazy! I always feel the desire for adventure, Like most young people, I am a thrill seeker. We all want to experience fun and excitement.

The Eighth quote is "I'm king of the world. "(Titanic)True love leaves one feeling like they can do anything. Its unfortunate when that is brought to a tragic end. Leonardo Dicaprio's character had to die. I have felt like I am the top of the world before, then I come crashing down back reality.The ninth quote is "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer." (The Godfather II)This is every gangster's key to success! I can't count how many times I have heard this quote. It has become a cliché. Few film quotes manage this feat. Well, I'm no gangster, but I take this motto to heart as well. You just never know who to trust. This is one of the many great quotes Marlon Brando delivers in this film. The last tenth quote is "Remember George, No man is a failure who has friends. ... You see, George, you really have had a wonderful life" (It's a Wonderful Life) This is one of my favorite quotes of all time! Love is the key to happiness, not possessions.As long as you have someone, that's all that matters. Jimmy Stewart is brilliant as George

What is happiness?

             Today’s blog’s topic is “What is happiness?” People in the world living today, even before they look for the happiness of their life and perhaps happiness would be the most important thing from their lives. People live the world to find happiness. Defining happiness can seem as elusive as achieving it. We want to be happy, and we can say whether we are or not, but can it really be defined, studied and measured? And can we use this learning to become happierHappiness has different meaning to every other people. Some people might think meaning of the happiness can be love or some people might think meaning of the happiness is catching a dream of their lives. What I think meaning of the happiness is just sounds like, happiness is getting happy emotion in human’s body. Like whenever I play soccer I feel happiness, because happiness comes from what people like. My friend likes basketball very much so he can get happiness from it too. I’m living the world to find ever-lasting happiness in my life and to give happiness to other people like my family, friends and my other precious people. Right now I’m studying in the school, because to find a happiness from future. I want to find happiness when I get adult. If I study really hard at this period, I can go good college and I would get happiness feeling later on. Also, my family wants to put me in a good college too, so if I get accept from good college my parents would be happy too.

There is some steps to be happy all the time and having joyful life. one step is Be optimistic. In the 1970s, researchers followed people who'd won the lottery and found that a year afterward, they were no happier than people who didn't. No matter what happens, good or bad, the effect on our happiness is temporary, and we tend to revert to our baseline level. Add up all the little joyful things that happen to you during the day. For example, there was no traffic on the road, you had a very decent and scrumptious breakfast, your friend said something uproariously humorous that made you laugh, you took your dog out for a walk in the park and played with it. All of these matters added together account to one big chunk of happiness. Another step is make enough money to meet basic needs — food, shelter, and clothing. What most of the people want from their lives is money. In the US, that magic number is $60,000 a year. Any money beyond that will not necessarily make you happier. Remember the lottery winners mentioned earlier? Oodles of money didn't make them happier. Once you make enough to support basic needs, your happiness is not significantly affected by how much money you make, but by your level of optimism. The last step is Treat your body like it deserves to be happy. It may sound cheesy to say, but your brain isn't the only organ in your body that deserves to be happy. Researchers have found that exercise, healthy diets, and regular sleep are key factors in growing more happy and staying that way.

Most Beneficial Book

             Today’s blog’s topic is “What is your most beneficial book and what did you learned from?” Books are the really great resource of human’s life. Reading books is really beneficial activities for people and I can tell that books are really helpful. Nothing can add to our intellect more than reading a book.  In books, we can experience new things that we would not normally be able to experience. With an active imagination, you can go to other worlds or made up worlds. Books can change our lives and other people’s lives. Reading can make us more intelligent. Without reading we wouldn’t know anything that we know today. Our forefathers have taught us more than we know. Books are very important to the development of a child because it not only helps them in school, but it also makes it easier for them to understand new subject matter. Reading is also important to an individual as it helps them to sort out relevant information from a pool of data that they may be presented with. It will also help a person to determine what they are interested in as they grow older. Books are very important, helps us to build our spirit, give information, help to pass time, make us more deep an cultural, helps us to write and think better, help us to choose people, because with book you will able to chose the persons that like the same books that you like. Since millions of centuries menkind write it's the way to preserve history, facts that without them all menkind was lost without identity.

             As we’ve seen above books are really helpful thing and I also agree with this. Now I would talk about one book that it really helped me. The book’s name is “Who moved my cheese?” It is wrote by Spencer Johnson.  Dr. Spencer Johnson realizes the need for finding the language and tools to deal with change--an issue that makes all of us nervous and uncomfortable.  In this book, there is four main characters, Ham, Haw, Sniff, and Scurry. The two litte people are Ham and Haw and Sniff and Scurry are the two little mice. In the book, they were looking for the cheese only because cheese is the thing that brings all of their happiness. They put lot of efforts to find cheese and finding cheese is really difficult. They live in the like maze shaped building so they have to move around a lot to find cheese. They both mice and people found cheese storage. Sniff and Scurry were ready for the find new cheese because they knew that those lots of cheese would be disappears at sometimes. However, those two little people Ham and Haw didn’t prepare at all for next happening. Of course they ate all the cheese and they thought someone moved their cheese at somewhere. They kept wait and wait until someone move cheese back to their storage but as time pass a lot still there was no any cheese. Haw couldn’t wail and he tried to find cheese again even he knows that it will be hard trip again and fearful of changing. Hem was also fearful that he couldn’t find cheese anymore so he just wait from the storage. At last, Hem found another storage that there is lot of cheese in it.

This book taught me a lot at many points. Most people are fearful of change because they don't believe they have any control over how or when it happens to them. Since change happens either to the individual or by the individual, Spencer Johnson shows us that what matters most is the attitude we have about change. However I learnd that change is really great thing in our lives.

Looks or Ideas?

Today’s blog’s topic is “The looks and clothing of a person are more important than having good ideas to succeed.”  Do I agree or disagree? I’m disagree with this topic. Most of all having success life is cause from ideas and creative thinking not from the outside look like clothing and visual attractiveness. Visual attractiveness can attract people at some moments, but it not lasts long and its attractiveness easily disappears from others. For example, there is one really pretty girls and her body is really hot and her face is really pretty. However, she can’t think very well and always can’t think forgo. She would attract people at first moment, but as time goes, people would think of her that “I don’t learn anything from her and she’s helpless from my life. She’s nothing for in my life…” Everyone will have prejudice of her like that. Idea and thinking give really great power and strength to a people. With those power and strength, they are able to have success lives.

For example, Steve Jobs was a flawed man, both personally and professionally in a lot of ways, but he was also one of the most successfull CEOs in history. Steve Jobs' vision of a "computer for the rest of us" sparked the PC revolution and made Apple an icon of American business. But somewhere along the way, Jobs' vision got clouded -- some say by his ego -- and he was ousted from the company he helped found. Few will disagree that Jobs did indeed impede Apple's growth, yet without him, the company lost its sense of direction and pioneering spirit. After nearly 10 years of plummeting sales, Apple turned to its visionary founder for help, and a little older, little wiser Jobs engineered one of the most amazing turnarounds of the 20th century. He was hippie when he was college student. He had weird dirty clothes and long hair. Everyone’s vision and looking of him was not good, but Steve Jobs erase all these prejudice by his passion and ideas. His first accomplishment was making free phone and everyone enjoyed it. Those phones were really popular at long time ago, but it was illegal, so police just took it. From this people’s outside visual is not the only key for having success life. Thinking and ideas can have more power than visual attractiveness. 

Like this getting good ideas can make people’s lives better. Converting an idea into a reality (regardless of the required investment of time and money) is never an easy task. In fact, it is extremely difficult. Whether you are an entrepreneur or corporate executive, “giving ideas life” is much like giving birth to a child. You must own the responsibility regardless of the circumstances. No one will ever understand your idea or the dynamics associated with it like you do. In this regard, you are on your own and the journey will require you to learn about yourself . Your chance of coming up with a breakthrough idea increases when you study, in great detail, the ‘domain’ that you are working under. This is fairly straightforward. If you are looking for a story idea, familiarize yourself with the best stories of all times. If you want to come up with a killer app, look up apps that people have liked and try to figure out what is it about them that works

                                              What are the three qualities of true friends?

While we live in the world, we often face lots of problems, which cost a lot of time and energy to solve them. By having many experiences, people could become more skillful person to deal with other problems. However, I firmly believe that even though they are mature enough to solve many problems, it does not mean that they do not struggle from other problems. Not until they die, people are not free from problems, which mean that they should develop many ways to solve the problems ceaselessly. Some problems allow people to have better experience to develop themselves and provide acknowledge. Meanwhile, problems cause people to fall down deeper and deeper. It can be so hurtful on them that cause people downfall while they are getting experiences from their problems. Some people say that people should solve their problems by themselves, but I am against for the idea.

            First, people can be strong enough to solve problems when they gather together; there is wide range of problems in this world. Some problems from someone else can teach people to be much strong and become more experienced person. We can become wiser by listening to wise people’s advice. We can learn many things from their advice: the key to the problems, helpful information, and even valuable lessons about life. This will help us later in life because someday, we will have to solve problems by ourselves. Meanwhile, there are some cases that even though some people have lots of experiences and knowledge, they can not solve some problems by themselves. Each people have their own certain experience gathered with lots of efforts. Therefore, if they share their problems and try to solve them together, it enables people to save their energy and time. Moreover, they can get experience and knowledge indirect way by solving them together.

            Second, sharing the problems with others make this society become much better society. Nowadays, a lot of students and people influenced by media so many people are isolated from the community, which is so called individualism society. They can’t solve their problems, because they can’t be a creative thinker like other people who read books. People who read books can be a creative thinkers and whenever they got difficult problems,  they can easily solve their problems, because they can make creative thinks. People who played and games can’t make creative solutions to solve their problems. People usually try to solve their problems by themselves, which cause big depression and more isolation and it makes problems worse. Even though many people are already in individualism, people can become happy by communicating with others expressing their emotions and feeling other people’s thought. In this sense I think that asking other people’s advices is essential for human life.

            Third, it is better to ask older people for advice because they have lived longer and have many personal learning experiences to draw from. Therefore, they have more knowledge and are wiser. They can give us advice according to what they have experienced, which is very helpful because it is information that we do not know. Based on their tips and advice, we can solve problems easier and faster. Also, if we listen to many people’s advice, we can think of many solutions to the same problem. It is easier to solve problems when we have more knowledge.

            As we’ve seen this above, asking other people for advice is the best way to solve problems. Like the elderly person and wise people can lead us to better way and solve our problems easily. The next time you have a problem; don’t hesitate to ask