How do I connect to others?

             “How do I connect to others?” is a topic for the today’s blog. In society, people have to connect to each other to communicate well and make better society.  I guess connection between person to person is really important, because it can make them to have better communication and good communications lead world to become stronger and having less problems. I also need a lot of communications with friends and parents whenever I have problems that I can’t solve very well on my own. Serious communication can really connect to other people and me. Whenever I have problems, I usually use serious communication with friends or parents. This serious communication can relive my mind and sometime some advices from them can really help to solve my problems.

             To meet people, connection is also take important role from it. Making new relationship with another like new friend or group, I can tell connection is good key for making new relationship. It’s awkward when you meet the new person at first time. So connection which means it’s like being of one mind together and understands each other very well. To make this happening, good connection have to be come out itself and make people understands each other with good mind and thinking. To make good connection in relationship, the person has to meet another person with proper and good manner. Complement is also good way to approach good relationship with another.

There is a step to get good communication from relationship between person to person. First one is speak warmly. If you drop the pitch of your voice and talk more slowly, the listener will respond with greater trust. When we are angry, excited, or frightened, we raise the pitch and intensity of our voices, and it varies a lot in speed and tone. On the other hand, a warm supportive voice is the sign of leadership and will generate more satisfaction, commitment, and cooperation between members of your team. Then Be brief. Limit your speaking to 30 seconds or less. Our conscious minds retain only a tiny bit of information. If you need to communicate something essential, share it in even smaller segments— a sentence or two— then wait for the person to acknowledge they’ve understood. If the person remains silent, say another sentence or two, and then pause again. It also helps to write down major points before the conversation.

Also, Listen deeply. Stay focused on the person who is speaking: their words, tone, gestures, facial cues— everything. When they pause, you’ll need to respond to what they just said. If they go and on, then just study them and watch how your own inner speech reacts, without worrying about what you may remember or forget. You’ll actually be practicing a form of meditation that is neurologically enhancing and emotionally relaxing— a far cry from what we usually feel when we are bored by someone speaking.

Besides that, Slow down. Slowing down your speech actually helps people understand what you are saying and deepens their respect for you. It's not as intuitive as it may seem, and as children we automatically speak fast. But you can teach a child to slow down by speaking slowly yourself because they’ll match you. A slow voice has a calming effect on a person who is feeling anxious, whereas a loud, fast voice stimulates excitement, anger, or fear